Tuesday, October 23, 2012

Early Fall Travail


What is that feeling called in your gut? 

The one you can't get rid of, that makes you okay with eating nothing but trail mix and  drinking too much coffee, or with fitful nights not sleeping and being unable to clear your head space? The one that you spend hours trying to figure out what's caused it? 

The one that has you simultaneously loathing going in to work (because you'd rather remain pantsless and drink the aforementioned coffee all day), and then loathing to leave work (because you'd just go home to yourself and that feeling in your gut)? 

The one that has you going to WalMart for small items you may or may not need- like a new toothbrush or some shampoo- and you hope for a self-esteem boost from looking at the indolent troglodytes and twenty-something meth addicts that seem to breed there among the $3 t-shirts and smiley faces signs, but you end up exacerbating that feeling in your gut as you walk around and notice in every aisle that those very people have each other to smile at, and all you have is a new toothbrush?

The one that has you finding reasons to drive, or to just sit in the car in the driveway of your little rental dollhouse, engine not turned on, and you sit there and breathe deeply the solitude the space offers, trying to exhale away the feeling in your gut?

The one that has your iTunes "shuffle songs" setting finding only the most melancholy songs, because it seems they were written to accompany that feeling in your gut?

The one that has you wishing you were stupid and maybe not so introspective? 

The one that has you wishing your memory wasn't so photogenically inclined, that the imagery from any day past would maybe go away for awhile, or at least fade and take that feeling in your gut with it?

The one that has you unconsciously driving to the lake instead of home each morning after you take your child to school so you can watch the sun rise as you walk along the shore and out onto the sand bars? The one that has you praying for one of the blessings of the New Day to be that the feeling in your gut is less of a distraction today?

If you know what this feeling is called, please- please tell me its name- so I can ask it to do one of two things: 1) transform into something less confusing, or 2) fuck off and leave, already.

4 comments:

Passer said...

I think one is called yearning, then there's the one that kind of warns you when something doesn't sound/look right, sort of like: "Trust me, I´m the right person for you" (and the person looks down while saying this) and then there's the too much fugazzeta (local pizza with cheese and onion)and beer kind. But I´m guessing you weren't referring to that kind.

Ms. Fix said...

Yes, yearning. And coveting, to some extent, but mostly the yearning. And yes, I'm NOT talking about indigestion! Haha! It's more about the feeling that someone or something really IS the right thing for you, but being frustrated that you cannot force anything to happen, that you cannot make the company hire you for the dream job, that you cannot force your child to learn the lesson you've already experienced,etc. UGH.

Passer said...

About the people you will are right and can't force them: 1) look for another one 2) be patient. Not sure one actually ever meets the RIGHT person. Most of the time we meet a more or less suitable one and get along with him/her.

Children: of course you can force them to learn, but to study yes. Usually plenty of study results in learning.

Job: same as the right person. OK, in a bearish market, chances to find a better one are slim, but that's your call. Don't blame the market for not trying. About the only controllable thing one has in life is to choose what to do, whatever that doing is, but one must always bear in mind "don't do the crime if you can't do the time", in any of the aspects of life, mainly in a pretty well organized and developed society as the USA. Even a pariah in India can choose, if he/she decides to.

Passer said...

Corrections: writing with very small print. Eyesight is crap!
About the people you feel are right for you and can't force to "acknowledge" you: 1) look for another one 2) be patient. Not sure one actually ever meets the RIGHT person. Most of the time we meet a more or less suitable one and get along with him/her.

Children: of course you CAN'T force them to learn, but to study yes. Usually plenty of study results in learning.