Wednesday, March 18, 2009


A bit of a rant, so bear with me.

I'm frustrated once again (and always, it seems) with the behavior of men. Not men in general, but the men in my life, both intimately and peripherally. I am confused as to why they behave in a way that makes them seem like their personal growth stunted at age 15 or 16. Why the perpetual adolesence? Is it something done in response to something women do? Their parents? Their siblings, cousins, friends?

I want to believe that men are capable of rising above fart jokes and petty arguments in favor of intelligent conversation and responsible actions. I want to believe that when I say to them, "I need you to do X, Y, and Z" that they will actually do X, Y, and Z. I want to relate to someone- not a female friend- who knows me well enough to anticipate my wants and needs and act on those rather than looking past those in favor of...more fart jokes.

During my bartending years, a regular of mine told me that men don't grow up until they hit age 45 (and he knew what he was talking about, I'm pretty sure). Look, I'm 37, and I think waiting another 8 years is a ridiculous thing to ask of me.

So, thank you dear friends for bearing with me. A good rant is, as my Martha says, "a Good Thing." The weekend is only two days away...


The Redhead said...

You are right. No matter how important the women are in your life, sometimes you just need to be able to count on a man. And not in that pathetic "damsel in distress" kind of way, either. The whole "if you want something done right, do it yourself" mentality can get exhausting. Most men don't realize how hard it really is to be Super Woman. I hear ya, and though I'm not a man, maybe I can at least snag you for quick walks and glasses of wine when I'm home so the venting can commence, in person. Miss you!

Ms. Fix said...

I knew at least one person would understand- thanks, Red! Love you & can't wait 'til you're home for good!